CONTROL ISSUES?

Enough chaos already. Are you craving feeling more calm, clear and steady right now? Do you need some help finding your balance on this magic carpet ride? I made you this video  to help. 

Most of the time we have the luxury of creating the illusion for ourselves that we have real control over the circumstances and outcomes of our lives. It's comforting to think that we can write New Year's resolutions and lengthy lists of goals then with consistent action and focus over time have them come to be true in our lives. As if our desires and action are the only determining factors.

We love believing we are the captains of our own ship of life, either steering ourselves into wonderful adventures or returning to safe harbors at our own discretion. If only it were that easy. I believe we do command a great deal of our lives, especially through intention and following universal laws, yet in the same way mother nature made the ocean more powerful than the ship captain, I too believe a higher power larger than us is truly running our lives.  

In moment like this we are confronted by how little control we actually have...and it can be unsettling if not terrifying. We treat this unknown as a larger kind of unknown that we are facing, but I will argue that this is actually the same unknown it's always been...bear with me.  

Just like it's the same gravity that is keeping our feet on the ground, this unknown too is the same. It only seems so different to us because we don't have a pre-existing lens to view this through that can instantly make it feel familiar or let us pretend we can control it.  

It's no different than the unknown of having your first baby, moving to a new place you've never been before, being promoted, launching your own business or big idea. What makes it feel different is that for the other examples you have a cultural context or your own personal experience with some part of that unknown.

We all have some inkling of what it's like to grow, birth and/or raise a baby, switch jobs or move. This means we can create structures in our mind to tell ourselves some story of how things will probably turn out. We have images and siblings or friends who've done it before but most of us have no frame of reference for a pandemic virus. We are left with nothing for our mind's to cling to that offers concrete certainty: financially, practically or emotionally...and it freaks us out.

Luckily uncertainty and the unknown are kind of my jam. This is the deep end I swim in for a living so I made you a video to share more on how you can regain a true sense of control over your experience in the current conditions. Check it out here.

I invite you to focus on what’s you can control: your thoughts, actions and how you respond to your circumstances. Take a few quiet moments a day to breathe and focus on what is truly important to you: for both today and the future of your life and work.

If you’d like more personal attention or support to your unfolding future, I can help you find your clarity, courage and a way back to yourself. 

Schedule a call with me now here

Sending you so much love, light and virtual hand sanitizer!